Getting Along with the Teacher
Tips for Creating a Good Relationship with Your Child's Teacher
Tips for surviving the school year when you and your child's teacher do not get along.
The school year is underway, and most parents by now have a good feel for the personality and expectations of their child's teacher. But what happens when you realize that you and your child's teacher do not get along?
Identify the Problem
It's important to understand why you and your child's teacher are having difficulty. Is it his teaching or communication style? Maybe it's his personality or the amount of homework he gives students. In other words, is it something that may rub you the wrong way, but is still effective in the classroom? Or is it something that is hindering your child's education? If it's the former-and it's not affecting your child, you may want to monitor the situation, but for now try to be patient. If, however, you feel that it's hurting your child, you need to speak up.
Talk with the Teacher
Although this could be an awkward conversation, it is the necessary first step. Request a teacher conference, and mention that you have a concern. Be respectful, but honest. Describe the problem, and try to work together to find a solution that your child (not just you) can live with.
Next Steps
If the problem isn't resolved, talk with the principal. Before you to go this step, however, recognize that going to the principal can be a tricky balance of standing up for your child, but not appearing to be a troublemaker. Tell the principal that you've talked with the teacher about an issue, and you feel that you could use some new ideas in the problem solving process.
Request a Change
If you feel the situation is still not resolved, you can request a transfer to another class, or consider other schooling options.
Help Your Child
If all fails and your child remains in the class with the situation unchanged, there is one more thing you can do - teach your child the skills to handle a difficult situation. Throughout her life, she will encounter people who may be difficult to get along with, whether it's her chemistry professor or her first boss. Helping her develop confidence, dignity, ingenuity and patience will serve her well beyond her school years.
Join the Team
Try to spend time in the classroom-- be a classroom volunteer or become a chaperone for field trips. Seeing the teacher in different circumstances may give you a different perspective. And when the teacher sees you as a partner, he may be more willing to listen.
